How To Really Love Your Child by D. Ross Campbell, M.D.
Pg.13- As parents become more physically, emotionally and spiritually drained, it becomes increasingly difficult to nurture a child. A child is the most needy person in our society, and the greatest need is love.
Pg.21- The most important relationship in the family is the marital relationship. Both the quality of the parent-child bond and the child’s security largely depend on the quality of the marital bond.
Pg.24- A husband must take the responsibility of initiating love.
Pg.31- The foundation of a solid relationship with a child is unconditional love.
Pg.32- A child is asking “Do you love me” with their behavior. We give our answer to that question by our response.
Pg.34- Only if the emotional tank is full can a child be expected to be at his or her best or do his or her best.
Pg.35- Children reflect love, but they do not initiate love.
Pg.37- We can classify conveying love to a child into four areas: eye contact, physical contact, focused attention, and discipline.
Pg. 40- A child uses eye contact with parents – and others – to feed emotionally.
Pg.51- The more special memories a child has, the stronger they will be able to stand against adolescent turmoil.
Pg.56- We must convey our love to our children before teaching, guidance, example and discipline.
Pg.58-59 You will NEVER be able to fulfill all your obligations. We must control our time and determine our priorities.
Pg.60- Order of priorities- God, Spouse, Children
Pg.62- A child critically needs focused attention.
Pg.64- All children have the same needs even if they do not demand those needs.
Pg.78- We will be able to give more to our children if we keep ourselves emotionally and spiritually replenished. This gets back to setting priorities and planning towards goals.
Pg.90- In child rearing- discipline is training a child in mind and character to enable the child to become a self controlled, constructive member of society.
Pg.91-92- To give a child focused listening requires at least eye contact, with physical contact and focused attention if possible and appropriate.
Pg.102- A young child communicates primarily with behavior.
Pg.104- We should always begin with “What does this child need?”
Pg.106-If a child is genuinely remorseful for a wrong act, punishment would be harmful.
Pg.109- When a child is forgiven a misconduct, this does not mean he or she should not assume responsibility for its consequences.
Pg.110- Forgive a child who is genuinely sorry, remorseful, and repentant for misconduct.
Pg.112- Punishment without a firm foundation of unconditional love and loving discipline (training) cannot help but create a poor relationship between parents and children.
Pg.114- Your child’s future happiness and welfare are heavily dependent on how you use your parent authority. How you use your parental authority will determine how he or she respects and responds to authority in the future.
Pg. 118- Children are sensitively aware of fairness and consistency.
Pg.138- If parents want to help children spiritually, they must care for them first emotionally.