Why You Should Blog Even If You Can’t Write And Have Noone To Read It

“All I need is a sheet of paper and something to write with, and then I can turn the world upside down.” -Friedrich Nietzsche

 

Let’s dissect what blogging is right off the bat. “Blogging” is simply a term for writing stuff publically online for other people to read. It can be used to tell a story, share a lesson hype a product and so on. This venue for your collection of words is a lot more powerful than you realize. Much like the discipline of journaling, it value is a lot less about actually what comes out but what happens when we activate ourselves to initiate and follow through with the process. We stroke multiple channels of thought and communication in our brains, stir our emotions and the output can be striking unfamiliar but very satisfying.

If you want to skip to the technical of how to setup a blog right now you can check this walkthrough out I created: HOW TO SETUP A BLOG IN 10 MINUTES OR LESS

 

Here are 3 (of many reasons) you need to be blogging:

 

Blogging allows you to outwardly process emotion and thought.

There is power in the pen. Writing out thoughts and feelings allow us more depth in processing. 99% of the time I find new revelations in past situations and ready application I never even considered before. It can emotionally unconstipate us and create huge breakthroughs in areas of our lives where we feel “stuck”.

 

Blogging allows us to grieve publicly and heal

Grief doesn’t happen just because of a death in the family. We sometimes need to grieve and heal from lost opportunities, poor choices, hurtful situations and more. There is something so satisfying about being “real” and putting yourself out there. It is like saying “I’m vulnerable and broken but I’m here and this is my story”. Truly powerful stuff.

One of the most powerful bi products of blogging online is that you sharing where you are can turn your hurts and hangups into healing for someone else – someone you don’t even know! The web is powerfully connected and we all have some social media somewhere. Just sharing your blogging with people in your inner network can have a huge impact on them and their network and so on.

One big stopping point for people is that they feel they don’t have millions of people to read it. As we said above, do it for yourself first. But in regards to this thought – would you rather be slightly know by 1 million people or have a life changing impact on 1 person’s life and all those they connect with? It is not about the width of our impact – it is about the depth of our impact. Be real and authentic and you’ll be surprised how much of a light you can be for others.

 

Blogging helps us refine our communication skills.

Life is all about communication. We are wired for community and we can’t have community without communication. Writing develops our communication skills and cognitive abilities. It help us process things better. Even if you can’t “write” writing makes you better.

 

So what is stopping you? If you are hung up on the technical pieces of setting up a blog, you can review my walkthrough on how to setup a blog on BlueHost (a blog hosting provider). The cost is $4-$5/month (and they have specials). WAAAY worth it.

How To Setup A Blog In 10 Minutes Or Less

 

 

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The 3 Dangerous Ways We Self-Destruct Our Future Potential

“What you think, you become.”

 

We’ve heard the “think yourself rich” stuff for a long time. Gurus have sold us all for decades on how to make it work for us like they did. If you could just think different you could be a millionaire, own a jet and build a huge business. I’m sure most of us check out when we hear that – I know I have a bad taste in my mouth when it comes to someone selling hype. BUT (with a big but) I think there is truth in the principle of self perspective when it has to do with the way we think about ourselves- especially when it comes to us thinking about our own value in life.

We are WAY to hard on ourselves. Have you ever had someone belittle themselves convinced of a lie that they believe about themselves that you don’t even remotely believe? It manifests itself more when we hear or see people’s actions. How could they do that? Why are they always in a funk, in trouble, hurting themselves and others? Lies. They are believing and acting out lies about themselves that they’ve come to believe that are simply not true. They aren’t worth it, they should feel guilty and ashamed, they don’t matter, etc.

I was at a luncheon once that was raising resources and awareness to rescue women from sex trafficking. In this horrific practice, the “pimp” that would introduce and keep women in the sex trade would start with a subtle lie about their value. These are women who you would NEVER think in a million years would consider anything like this.Then they’d continue to build the lies until the point where they’d convince these women that their only value is to sell themselves. It is sick and twisted – yet it demonstrates that what we end up believing about ourselves (true or not) will manifest itself into reality. Once we believe it, it is very easy to become it.

 

Here are the top 3 ways it creeps into our lives and keeps us from all our potential:

 

We believe other’s lies about ourselves.

We live in a harsh world with a lot of broken people. Angry, frustrated, mean and hurting people. In relationships, scenarios and situations we encounter a lot of false information. One person’s opinion doesn’t define us. When I was in middle school I was a bit of a class clown. I felt that was where I got the most self esteem and people looked at me as someone that was funny but not smart. I played “dumb” a lot and that believe actually impacted all my output in school and many relationships. I remember one scenario where another peer strait asked me – Why are you acting dumb? You’re not dumb.” It completely shattered me. I thought to myself – he’s right what am I doing? Just that pivot changed a ton of things in my life. We have to diligently filter other’s input against what we know is true about ourselves.

 

We internalize these lies and wire them into our reality. 

Usually as a second stage of believing the lies other people spin, we internalize their belief. We think, “..they said that so it must be true”. STOP. People say a lot of things that aren’t true – especially immature, emotional defunct people. Think about bullying. Did you have any bullies when you were growing up? Bullies hurt a lot of people but usually when you dig deeper most are really immature hurting people inside. They are trying to numb the pain in their lives by taking it out on others.

I remember this guy from highschool that I felt was always picking on me for some reason – acne, weight, you name it. This dude was such a jerk. He hurt me with his words and comments when I was prob most vulnerable and it took me a long time to get over it. Some of the stuff he said I felt just replayed in my head. Lies.

I found out later that he was physically abused pretty badly by his parents all through school. When I heard that, it just broke my heart in a way that I never thought I’d feel for this person. I went from resentment to compassion.

I believed some of the lies that he told me and for a long time because I made them my own. They kept me from seeking my full potential. Just because someone says it, doesn’t mean it’s true or that it defines who you are.

 

We build our lives based on other people.

We’ve all heard the phrase “keep up with the Jones'”. It has to do with building our lives and making decisions around what other people think or how we think we look to other people. Facebook feeds this desire. Everyone seems so perfect that we feel like our lives aren’t matching up – but behind the scenes everyone is broken and struggling just like the next person.

Why does this destroy our potential? Because it keeps us from being who we really are, making the unique contribution to our world only we can make and it perpetuates this belief system.

Thing about when someone is just real – an unadulterated “what you see is what you get” kind of person. It is almost refreshing. That is because we are drawn to authentic people  – they feel “real”. Authenticity has become so rare in our world but so attractive.

 

To sum it up:

Evaluate what lies you might be believing from your past and debunk them. Curate a positive self image and be yourself. The world needs you and what you bring to the table. You are valuable!

 

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3 Serious Lessons I Learned About Taking Shortcuts When I Cheated My First 5k Race

 

I learned this lesson the hard way when I decided to cheat the Cleveland, Ohio 5k race at Thanksgiving about 10 years ago. (It’s embarrassing to even tell this story but it was quite a learning lesson for me.)

My father is an avid runner and has been his entire life. As for me I didn’t get those genes – I’ll run if my life is in danger or the food is ready. So, as a “bonding” experience I opted to run a yearly race he does at Thanksgiving in Cleveland Ohio called the “5k Turkey Trot”. I showed up completely out of shape. I hadn’t done ANY training for this race – I was overly optimistic and completely unprepared.

I remember staring with my dad and hundreds of others at the starting line. When they said go – we were off. The first half mile was bearable and then it started to get a bit tough. My dad was just cruising and it wasn’t long before I couldn’t see him. Before I knew it, I was already at the back with all the stragglers. I was a straggler.

Halfway into the race my mind started to give up. I found myself justifying speed walking, then justifying regularly walking and then I had the bright idea of taking a shortcut back to the finish line. Haven’t I run enough? Who will know? Who would really care? It’s just a dumb race. I’m not even a runner. (It’s always amazing to me how willing we are to justify our own lies).

So I did it. I took the next side street and headed up toward the finish line. About halfway up the street I turned around and literally about died. People were following me.

I have to say that in that moment I felt like the worst human being in the world. First I had convinced myself to cheat and then I had unknowingly brought innocent people along with me. Could it get any worse?

Yes. I am not proud of my next action and it’s crazy to even think I made this choice as a twenty something “adult”. What did I do when I saw I was misleading others? I ran ahead and hid behind a car. Even typing that makes me feel scuzzy. I-hid-behind-a-car. And when the other runners came around the corner I remember peeking and seeing how bewildered they were that I had “vanished”. Eventually, they ended up running back the way they came and found the course they should have been on.

I’ve thought of this story many, many times and there are 3 lessons that stick out so clearly:

Shortcuts don’t work. They just waste our time and resources.

Not only did I give up on my goal of finishing the race and let people down – I ended up actually getting lost in Cleveland and going further than I would have if I would have just finished the race out. Shortcuts in life, business, relationships all have some kind of appeal in the beginning but in the end we wind up with wasted time, efforts and resources we will never get back.

Our shortcuts hurt other people even if we don’t see it. 

We like to think everyone else is isolated from our decisions. It is one of the great lies we spin. It is not true. Everything we do has an impact on the people closest to us – family, friends, etc. EVERYTHING. Positive and negative. When we opt to take a quick route or shortcut we will effect their lives and it rarely in a positive way.

Shortcuts hurt us even if we don’t want to admit it. 

The emotions I felt from this experience didn’t stay in the race. I felt guilty for a long time because I cheated myself. I felt ashamed and embarrassed because I had quit so easily. I wound up lying to others about it, my results, what happened,etc. because I felt so bad. Negative emotions take a serious toll on us and rob of us joy and energy. This internal damage comes out in our attitude and behavior with others. No one wants to feel like that.

Make sense?

Guess what? I’m going back at it this year – Thanksgiving 2016. No shortcuts, no gimmicks. I’m going to finish it (run,walk, limp, crawl – whatever) and rewrite this chapter. :)

 

NET OUT: Essentialism By Greg Mckeown

“Essentialism by Greg Mckeown” Notes…

ASK: “Is this the very most important thing I should be doing with my time right now?”

Pursue less but BETTER

Determine where the highest point of contribution lies and then make an execution of those things almost effortless.

If you don’t prioritize your life, someone else will.

Focus on what is absolutely essential by eliminating everything else.

ASK: Will this effort or activity make the highest possible contribution towards my goals?

We can choose how to spend our energy and time

Almost everything is noise and a very few things are exceptionally valuable.

We can’t have it all or do it all.

The right thing AT the right time THE right way.

Choice is an action

Certain types of efforts yield higher rewards than others. LESS BUT BETTER

The Law Of The Vital Few – You can massively improve the quality of something by changing small key elements.

An “Essentialist” discerns more so he can do less.

ASK: What is the trade-off I want to make- What can I go big on?

Playing is key part of life. DO NOT ignore play.

Overachievers- The real challenge for those who thrive on challenges is NOT to work hard.

Rest is EXTREMELY important.

Do fewer things no so you can do more tomorrow. (long term mentality)

Pursuit of something should be a HELL YEAH! or its a No. Has to be a definite yes.

Give things a score from 0-100 if its less than 90 do not do it.

ASK: If we could truly be excellent at only one thing, what would it be?

Learn to say NO frequently and gracefully. ONLY say yes to the things that truly matter!

Avoid the “sunk cost bias” – not cutting something off because you’ve put too much in it.

ASK: If I wasn’t already invested in this, how much would I invest now?

ASK: What else could I do if I pulled the plug now?

Comfortable with cutting losses

Making things better means SUBTRACTING

Get rid of options or activities that get in the way!

Every additional moment we have gained can be spend on something better.

Pursue less efforts to get results.

Eliminate meaningless activities and replace them with meaningful activity.

Restrain for stepping into issues or things that will burn time and energy.

Create Buffers – things that keep us from coming into contact with things that harm us. Money can be buffer, time processes, etc.

Use extreme preparation – prepare FAR in advance.

Add 50% to your time estimates.

Make a one time investment in removing “slow hikers” or things that get in the way of your processes.

Start small and celebrate small progress.

Progress is the number one form of motivation

DESIGN A ROUTINE THAT MAXIMIZES ALL ABOUT YOU AND MINIMIZES THINKING, TIME AND ENERGY.

Every habit is made up of a “Cue, Routine and Reward”.

Enjoy the “Present”. Be present where you are.

There is no way to “Concentrate” on multiple things at once. NO WAY

Make existentialism something you are.

The more items you pursue, the harder it is to follow up on all of them.

NET OUT: Monk And The Merchant by Terry Felber

“The Legend of the Monk and the Merchant by Terry Felber” Notes…

*Christians have a responsibility in business. Everything we do as believers can and should be done from a paradigm of ministry.*

Principal 1 – Work hard and God will prosper you.

Principal 2- Financial prosperity is often connected to soul prosperity.

Principal 3- Man must do whatever he can to provide for his family.

Principal 4- Trials develop your character, preparing you for increased blessings.

Principal 5- Take responsibility for problems that are the result of your own bad decisions. Don’t displace the blame.

Principal 6- See challenges as stepping stones, not as obstacles.

Principal 7- Be meek before God but bold before men.

Principal 8- Live debt-free and below your means.

Principal 9- Always keep to your budget.

Principal 10- Loaning money destroys relationships.

Principal 11-Set aside the first 10% to honor God.

Principal 12- Understand the power of partnership.