Why You Should Blog Even If You Can’t Write And Have Noone To Read It

“All I need is a sheet of paper and something to write with, and then I can turn the world upside down.” -Friedrich Nietzsche

 

Let’s dissect what blogging is right off the bat. “Blogging” is simply a term for writing stuff publically online for other people to read. It can be used to tell a story, share a lesson hype a product and so on. This venue for your collection of words is a lot more powerful than you realize. Much like the discipline of journaling, it value is a lot less about actually what comes out but what happens when we activate ourselves to initiate and follow through with the process. We stroke multiple channels of thought and communication in our brains, stir our emotions and the output can be striking unfamiliar but very satisfying.

If you want to skip to the technical of how to setup a blog right now you can check this walkthrough out I created: HOW TO SETUP A BLOG IN 10 MINUTES OR LESS

 

Here are 3 (of many reasons) you need to be blogging:

 

Blogging allows you to outwardly process emotion and thought.

There is power in the pen. Writing out thoughts and feelings allow us more depth in processing. 99% of the time I find new revelations in past situations and ready application I never even considered before. It can emotionally unconstipate us and create huge breakthroughs in areas of our lives where we feel “stuck”.

 

Blogging allows us to grieve publicly and heal

Grief doesn’t happen just because of a death in the family. We sometimes need to grieve and heal from lost opportunities, poor choices, hurtful situations and more. There is something so satisfying about being “real” and putting yourself out there. It is like saying “I’m vulnerable and broken but I’m here and this is my story”. Truly powerful stuff.

One of the most powerful bi products of blogging online is that you sharing where you are can turn your hurts and hangups into healing for someone else – someone you don’t even know! The web is powerfully connected and we all have some social media somewhere. Just sharing your blogging with people in your inner network can have a huge impact on them and their network and so on.

One big stopping point for people is that they feel they don’t have millions of people to read it. As we said above, do it for yourself first. But in regards to this thought – would you rather be slightly know by 1 million people or have a life changing impact on 1 person’s life and all those they connect with? It is not about the width of our impact – it is about the depth of our impact. Be real and authentic and you’ll be surprised how much of a light you can be for others.

 

Blogging helps us refine our communication skills.

Life is all about communication. We are wired for community and we can’t have community without communication. Writing develops our communication skills and cognitive abilities. It help us process things better. Even if you can’t “write” writing makes you better.

 

So what is stopping you? If you are hung up on the technical pieces of setting up a blog, you can review my walkthrough on how to setup a blog on BlueHost (a blog hosting provider). The cost is $4-$5/month (and they have specials). WAAAY worth it.

How To Setup A Blog In 10 Minutes Or Less

 

 

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The 3 Dangerous Ways We Self-Destruct Our Future Potential

“What you think, you become.”

 

We’ve heard the “think yourself rich” stuff for a long time. Gurus have sold us all for decades on how to make it work for us like they did. If you could just think different you could be a millionaire, own a jet and build a huge business. I’m sure most of us check out when we hear that – I know I have a bad taste in my mouth when it comes to someone selling hype. BUT (with a big but) I think there is truth in the principle of self perspective when it has to do with the way we think about ourselves- especially when it comes to us thinking about our own value in life.

We are WAY to hard on ourselves. Have you ever had someone belittle themselves convinced of a lie that they believe about themselves that you don’t even remotely believe? It manifests itself more when we hear or see people’s actions. How could they do that? Why are they always in a funk, in trouble, hurting themselves and others? Lies. They are believing and acting out lies about themselves that they’ve come to believe that are simply not true. They aren’t worth it, they should feel guilty and ashamed, they don’t matter, etc.

I was at a luncheon once that was raising resources and awareness to rescue women from sex trafficking. In this horrific practice, the “pimp” that would introduce and keep women in the sex trade would start with a subtle lie about their value. These are women who you would NEVER think in a million years would consider anything like this.Then they’d continue to build the lies until the point where they’d convince these women that their only value is to sell themselves. It is sick and twisted – yet it demonstrates that what we end up believing about ourselves (true or not) will manifest itself into reality. Once we believe it, it is very easy to become it.

 

Here are the top 3 ways it creeps into our lives and keeps us from all our potential:

 

We believe other’s lies about ourselves.

We live in a harsh world with a lot of broken people. Angry, frustrated, mean and hurting people. In relationships, scenarios and situations we encounter a lot of false information. One person’s opinion doesn’t define us. When I was in middle school I was a bit of a class clown. I felt that was where I got the most self esteem and people looked at me as someone that was funny but not smart. I played “dumb” a lot and that believe actually impacted all my output in school and many relationships. I remember one scenario where another peer strait asked me – Why are you acting dumb? You’re not dumb.” It completely shattered me. I thought to myself – he’s right what am I doing? Just that pivot changed a ton of things in my life. We have to diligently filter other’s input against what we know is true about ourselves.

 

We internalize these lies and wire them into our reality. 

Usually as a second stage of believing the lies other people spin, we internalize their belief. We think, “..they said that so it must be true”. STOP. People say a lot of things that aren’t true – especially immature, emotional defunct people. Think about bullying. Did you have any bullies when you were growing up? Bullies hurt a lot of people but usually when you dig deeper most are really immature hurting people inside. They are trying to numb the pain in their lives by taking it out on others.

I remember this guy from highschool that I felt was always picking on me for some reason – acne, weight, you name it. This dude was such a jerk. He hurt me with his words and comments when I was prob most vulnerable and it took me a long time to get over it. Some of the stuff he said I felt just replayed in my head. Lies.

I found out later that he was physically abused pretty badly by his parents all through school. When I heard that, it just broke my heart in a way that I never thought I’d feel for this person. I went from resentment to compassion.

I believed some of the lies that he told me and for a long time because I made them my own. They kept me from seeking my full potential. Just because someone says it, doesn’t mean it’s true or that it defines who you are.

 

We build our lives based on other people.

We’ve all heard the phrase “keep up with the Jones'”. It has to do with building our lives and making decisions around what other people think or how we think we look to other people. Facebook feeds this desire. Everyone seems so perfect that we feel like our lives aren’t matching up – but behind the scenes everyone is broken and struggling just like the next person.

Why does this destroy our potential? Because it keeps us from being who we really are, making the unique contribution to our world only we can make and it perpetuates this belief system.

Thing about when someone is just real – an unadulterated “what you see is what you get” kind of person. It is almost refreshing. That is because we are drawn to authentic people  – they feel “real”. Authenticity has become so rare in our world but so attractive.

 

To sum it up:

Evaluate what lies you might be believing from your past and debunk them. Curate a positive self image and be yourself. The world needs you and what you bring to the table. You are valuable!

 

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3 Serious Lessons I Learned About Taking Shortcuts When I Cheated My First 5k Race

 

I learned this lesson the hard way when I decided to cheat the Cleveland, Ohio 5k race at Thanksgiving about 10 years ago. (It’s embarrassing to even tell this story but it was quite a learning lesson for me.)

My father is an avid runner and has been his entire life. As for me I didn’t get those genes – I’ll run if my life is in danger or the food is ready. So, as a “bonding” experience I opted to run a yearly race he does at Thanksgiving in Cleveland Ohio called the “5k Turkey Trot”. I showed up completely out of shape. I hadn’t done ANY training for this race – I was overly optimistic and completely unprepared.

I remember staring with my dad and hundreds of others at the starting line. When they said go – we were off. The first half mile was bearable and then it started to get a bit tough. My dad was just cruising and it wasn’t long before I couldn’t see him. Before I knew it, I was already at the back with all the stragglers. I was a straggler.

Halfway into the race my mind started to give up. I found myself justifying speed walking, then justifying regularly walking and then I had the bright idea of taking a shortcut back to the finish line. Haven’t I run enough? Who will know? Who would really care? It’s just a dumb race. I’m not even a runner. (It’s always amazing to me how willing we are to justify our own lies).

So I did it. I took the next side street and headed up toward the finish line. About halfway up the street I turned around and literally about died. People were following me.

I have to say that in that moment I felt like the worst human being in the world. First I had convinced myself to cheat and then I had unknowingly brought innocent people along with me. Could it get any worse?

Yes. I am not proud of my next action and it’s crazy to even think I made this choice as a twenty something “adult”. What did I do when I saw I was misleading others? I ran ahead and hid behind a car. Even typing that makes me feel scuzzy. I-hid-behind-a-car. And when the other runners came around the corner I remember peeking and seeing how bewildered they were that I had “vanished”. Eventually, they ended up running back the way they came and found the course they should have been on.

I’ve thought of this story many, many times and there are 3 lessons that stick out so clearly:

Shortcuts don’t work. They just waste our time and resources.

Not only did I give up on my goal of finishing the race and let people down – I ended up actually getting lost in Cleveland and going further than I would have if I would have just finished the race out. Shortcuts in life, business, relationships all have some kind of appeal in the beginning but in the end we wind up with wasted time, efforts and resources we will never get back.

Our shortcuts hurt other people even if we don’t see it. 

We like to think everyone else is isolated from our decisions. It is one of the great lies we spin. It is not true. Everything we do has an impact on the people closest to us – family, friends, etc. EVERYTHING. Positive and negative. When we opt to take a quick route or shortcut we will effect their lives and it rarely in a positive way.

Shortcuts hurt us even if we don’t want to admit it. 

The emotions I felt from this experience didn’t stay in the race. I felt guilty for a long time because I cheated myself. I felt ashamed and embarrassed because I had quit so easily. I wound up lying to others about it, my results, what happened,etc. because I felt so bad. Negative emotions take a serious toll on us and rob of us joy and energy. This internal damage comes out in our attitude and behavior with others. No one wants to feel like that.

Make sense?

Guess what? I’m going back at it this year – Thanksgiving 2016. No shortcuts, no gimmicks. I’m going to finish it (run,walk, limp, crawl – whatever) and rewrite this chapter. :)

 

4 Amazing Lessons I Learned When I Lost Everything

 

Early on in 2006/2007 I found myself in the middle of the economic boom. Literally in the right place at the right time with the right set of skills. Money came quick and easy and for a 24 year old who grew up in a lower middle class Pastor’s family – I had no clue how to handle it. Everyone was so focused on themselves – buying stuff and having a good time. ( I cringe looking back at what a waste of life that chapter was).

I decided to build my own business in the same niche I was doing well in. So I Invested a ton of money on credit, but I ignored basic business principles and went at it completely over leveraged. As they say, I “bet the farm”. I also had an untouchable ego to boot.

Then the economy tanked and the recession hit.

From there everything just got worse and worse. Business died, payments mounted up, debt collectors started calling, had 2 cars repossessed. On top of that I had no income coming as I wouldn’t even consider getting a job because I couldn’t make what I was making before (stupid). The IRS audited me and I owed a grip of cash with interest that was compounding daily. I was a rock bottom and it felt like when it couldn’t get worse, it did. That year I had married the love of my life and I felt guilty as she was a part of all this struggle even though they were my bad decisions. It was a painful, hopeless and dark season of my life but looking back it was the most valuable thing that has ever happened to me.

Here are the 4 life lessons I learned through all this:

Humility

Going from having everything you want to not having what you need is a very humbling experience. It makes you realize that everyone is an inch away from losing it all. I had gone from what I felt was the top of the mountain to the bottom of the valley- very fast. It completely put my character and ego in check. In fact, my first job after I finally humbled myself to go find any work I could find ( we were so desperate) was making $7 an hour doing construction and I drove 80 miles roundtrip to get to the jobsite each way in a new car with expired registration that was behind on payments.

I love this quote – “From humble beginnings come great things.”

Thankfulness

When you truly have nothing you are thankful for anything. There was a night my wife and I didn’t even have food and no money to buy any. I felt so trapped with no options. As we sat there with no idea what we were going to do, there was a knock on the door. A lady from where my wife was working had just randomly decided to bring us a bag of canned goods and food. This was such a miracle for us. I’ve never been so thankful for a can of salmon in my life! If you are thankful for the little things, your life will be rewarded with constant positive perspective and joy.

It Gave Me A Heart For Those Who Are Struggling

Those who have gone through something identify with those going through that same thing. You can feel the same emotions and understand the same thoughts and struggles. My heart now just breaks for those who are struggling and I’m committed to making a difference. That was not the case before all this happened.

It Taught Me More Than Any Measure Of Success Could

Pain is a great teacher. When we touch a hot stove and get burned, we learn not to not do it again. Successfulness unchecked can falsely prop up our expectations, egos and blind our perspective. The lessons I learned from losing everything has made me a better person, husband, father, businessman, friend and more. Still it took me 8 years to correct all that happened in this season and it was painful for a long time.

In the end I wouldn’t change anything. I’m better today because of it AND I won’t make those mistakes again:)

 

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HOW TO SETUP A WORDPRESS BLOG IN 10 MINUTES OR LESS

How To Setup A WordPress Blog In 10 Minutes or LEss

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Are you passionate ABOUT SOMETHING? DO YOU LIKE TO WRITE? Do you have a story that needs to be told? Do you want to generate passive income for your family?

Starting a blog might be your answer.

Blogs are no longer just for the “professional writer”. They are for the thinker, the designer, the mother, the craftsman, and the teacher.

In 2014, I decided to start blogging and building my personal platform. It’s now become part of my full-time career and it has allowed me to make a living from the things I am most passionate about.

Sadly, I see many people not chase their dream because their either don’t know where to start or the “setup process” is too complex.

But its not. Below I have outlined an easy step-by-step guide to getting a domain, setting up hosting, and installing WordPress in 10 minutes or less.

There are many ways to setup a blog but you will get the most control by using self-hosted WordPress blog. This is what most serious bloggers use. This is what I use here at DalePartridge.com

IMPORTANT: The first step for setting up a blog is buying a domain and setting up hosting. If you are not sure about the difference between hosted and self-hosted WordPress, I found this helpful infographic that explains it well. My verdict… stay away from WordPress.com. It’s limiting and does not allow your blog to scale well.

To Get Started You’ll Need 3 Items:

1. A Credit Card ( Average startup costs can be around $50 – sometimes less and sometimes a little more depending on upgrades)
2. A Domain Name
3. Setup Hosting
4. WordPress
5. A Theme To Install

Step #1: Buying A Domain Name

The domain name of my blog is MovingMountains.co. That’s where people have come to find me on the web. Choosing a good domain can be tough. Your domain can either be your name or a branded domain like MovingMountains.co. Luckily, the hosting company I will recommend in step #2 provides you a free domain when you sign up.

Step #2 Setting Up A Hosting Account.

This is where your blog will “live.” This is a server in the cloud (i.e., a remote computer), where you will rent space to install the WordPress software and manage your blog. It’s far easier than it sounds. Stick with me.

There are a hundreds of hosting services available. However, based on my experience and research, I recommend Bluehost. I believe it is the best option for most people for the following several reasons:

  1. Bluehost is large and well known.
  2. They offer excellent customer service (located in the US).
  3. Their packages are highly affordable and include domain names. Way less work.
  4. Their service provides extremely fast page load times.
  5. Bluehost is very easy to use.

ACTION STEP: Click HERE to buy your domain and signup for hosting with Bluehost. I have provided a visual guide of the steps below. 

BLUEHOST STEP #1

Visit This Link (the same as the one above) and Click “Get Started Now” button.

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BLUEHOST STEP #2

Choose your plan.
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Choose your free domain name or bring over your current domain. Both are very easy processes.

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BLUEHOST STEP #4

Place your order and pay for your plan.

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BLUEHOST STEP #5

Once you’ve logged in, you will be taken to your Bluehost dashboard where you can install WordPress (the software that runs your blog) in a few simple clicks.

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BLUEHOST STEP #6

Click the the green install button.

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BLUEHOST STEP #7

Choose the domain you just registered or the one you brought over.

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BLUEHOST STEP #8

Check the “Show advanced options” box and fill in the title, username, and password. Your title will be the name of your blog (mine would be Dale Partridge). The username and password will be what you use to login to the backend of your blog (your WordPress dashboard).

IMPORTANT: Save this information somewhere where you won’t lose it. You will need it for step #10

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BLUEHOST STEP #9

Bluehost will install WordPress on your server and let you know when it’s complete.

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Click the “View Credentials” button on the top right.
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BLUEHOST STEP #10

Click on “Admin URL” (located below the green box) and enter your WordPress login credentials from step #8. This will take you to your WordPress dashboard. Your WordPress dashboard is where you will do almost everything on your blog. From writing articles to changing design.

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FINAL STEP

This is your WordPress Dashboard. You can either begin blogging or upload a new theme for your blog. I would recommend purchasing a new WordPress theme at Themeforest.net. At ThemeForest, in the navigation go to “WordPress” in the upper left section of the page. Then choose your theme type and begin exploring thousands of themes. After purchasing your theme from Themeforest, you will return to your WordPress dashboard and click “Appearance” > Themes > Upload a New Theme. Here you will upload the .zip file of the theme your just purchased.

Lastly, you will then follow your theme’s setup features provided by the person who developed your theme. This is where you will upload your logo, change colors, add pages, and more.

Congratulations! You have officially setup your blog. This is only the beginning of an exciting journey for you. BIG THINGS!